It is important to know that there is a great power in unity, especially between a man and his wife. The strength of a couple in prayers is incomparable, that is to say, it is extremely greater than the sum of the strength of each of the two persons.
At often times when conflict arises
between a couple frequently and frustration sets in. One may begin to tell himself/herself
that ‘nothing will ever change about my spouse’, there is no hope for reconciliation’,
and ‘I’d be happier living alone or getting married to someone else. These are
devices of the devil to weaken us spiritually, feed us with lies that will demoralize and separate us from each other, because he knows the power in
couples’ oneness.
Whenever you feel
miserable in your marriage, and you think that there is no improvement in your spouse. Here
are some helpful tips for you:
- You must begin to see your situation from God’s perspective and not yours.
- Pray ceaselessly. That is to say pray without a break (morning, afternoon, evening and at midnight) for your spouse. When you do, your spouse’s heart and yours becomes soft, burden becomes lifted, and heartache is gone. You will begin to see the light of God illuminating your marriage.
- Only your ability to totally trust in God, will see through even the toughest of times. Faith that God will restore the love, joy and every other thing that you have been denied. He will also restore all that has been devoured, destroyed and taken away from your marriage. Read Joel 2:25. You just need to trust him to take away the pain in your heart, give you hope in place of hopelessness, softness in place of hardness, forgiveness in place of strife, love and care in place of hostility and brutality.
- You have to tell yourself exactly what you want for your marriage. You have to consciously remind yourself that ‘My marriage must work, no matter what happens’. You could tell your spouse the same thing, even when your spouse’s negative attitude is proving otherwise, remain positive. Your decision and your confession that your marriage must work will energize your spirit to do whatever necessary to achieve this.
You may experience a silent
withdrawal from each other’s lives and affairs, which severs all your
emotional connection between each other, or perhaps you think your marriage is
in a bottomless pit of anger, aggression and hurt which daily sends a signal of
despair.
You also realize that every
conversation drives a wedge further between you until it becomes an
impenetrable barrier keeping you miles apart. At this juncture, you should
depend solely on God who is always there to break all the barriers, give you a
lifting from the pit, heal every wound and above all, bring love and peace
back into your home. Don’t ever try to do anything by yourself, because without
Him (God) you can do nothing. But you can do all things through Christ that
strengthens you. (Phippians 4:13). What that simply means is that, you will be
directed by God for all actions and inactions. First, He will begin the work of
transformation in you, then he deals with your spouse, and at the end of it all,
everything becomes a testimony, and He (God) alone takes all the glory
On a final note, there must be a place for patience. It might take a little while before you begin to see answers to your prayers, most especially in a case where you have been battered and your heart is deeply wounded. Just see God has the only one with solution to all your problems and keep your focus on Him alone. Don't try to imagine how he will solve them, your duty is to pray and God's duty is to answer.
On a final note, there must be a place for patience. It might take a little while before you begin to see answers to your prayers, most especially in a case where you have been battered and your heart is deeply wounded. Just see God has the only one with solution to all your problems and keep your focus on Him alone. Don't try to imagine how he will solve them, your duty is to pray and God's duty is to answer.
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